Seriously? You call me because you have a sick dog. Its like you know you are playing with my heartstrings and that I will get swept into this situation. I dont like it, but I cannot help it because I cannot look away when it comes to a sick animal.
*Sigh*
Heres to separating Church from state... feelings from what needs to happen.
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Hot and Cold
Yes and No, In and out, up and down. (Inspired by the Katy Perry song)
I have known you only a year. 1 year, 1 week. And within that year there has been this HUGE array of memories. Some of the good, some of the bad. But regardless, neither one of us has let go. I dont know if we can, does that sound to presumptuous? I mean seriously, when I said no contact that should have been it. But it was too hard on me, and you said it sucked for you too. Then limited contact throughout the fall and winter and now all of a sudden, its like we have traveled back in time- almost exactly a year. I dont know what to do with it. I dont know how to handle it. You have been the most real relationship I have had and we never even made it into the relationship. So what gives, what do I do to protect myself but not lose you, is it even possible? Better yet, is it really worth it?
I dont know. But I will try. I dont want to be the other girl, it was blurry as to whether that happened last year, and I dont want to play that game again. If anything I want you to be just mine, one on one, no extra people. But it seems you have moved on and whether you know it or not, and whether I like it or not, it feels as if I am the backup girl.
My pride and joy in this whole situation is that I have not cried over you. Frustrated? Yes. Angered? yes. Hurt? sure. But tearful? Not once. And whether or not I like the fact that the saying "He who makes you cry isnt worth the tears and he who doesnt is" or some variation of that, is stuck in my head, it definitely influences me. You havent ever made me cry, and for some reason or another that speaks volumes in and of itself. And I cannot shake it.
The way that you have an uncanny ability to almost literally bring me to my knees in surprise is a pain in the butt. And the fact that you remember and freaking bring up some of our "moments" just flabbergasts me. I mean seriously, last night you watched Twilight and New Moon and brought up the night that you first saw Twilight. A night that I will never forget. And then I asked if you ever read the books. And apparently you have, so I commended your girlfriend for getting you to read the books, but you said it wasnt her who got you to read the books. No, apparently when I told you you should read the books you did. I mean SERIOUSLY? You like UK basketball? WHAT THE HELL?!
I feel that I will never be able to forget you, not that I would want to. However, this just friends thing we have scares the shit out of me. Because for me, those memories that I have, they cloud my vision. We had some good things. And you still talk about hanging out, it just scares me. YOU scare me.
Here's an analogy for how I feel. I feel like I am a fish that bit down on a baited hook. You were the fisherman, and reeled me in. You took the hook out and treated me special for a while. Then you put me in a cooler and its yet to be decided whether or not you are going to let me go free at the end of the day.
Heres to hoping that the worst fate that this fish comes to is just being put in an aquarium and not being fried for dinner, because I am sure if you were to take me home for dinner things would definitely end in tears.
I said it once last year that you had me hook line and sinker and that you needed to either fish or cut bait. So I think you have fished and yet I still dont have much control over what happens.
Here's to being able to live a life as a fairly happy fish and not being fried for lent! :)
I have known you only a year. 1 year, 1 week. And within that year there has been this HUGE array of memories. Some of the good, some of the bad. But regardless, neither one of us has let go. I dont know if we can, does that sound to presumptuous? I mean seriously, when I said no contact that should have been it. But it was too hard on me, and you said it sucked for you too. Then limited contact throughout the fall and winter and now all of a sudden, its like we have traveled back in time- almost exactly a year. I dont know what to do with it. I dont know how to handle it. You have been the most real relationship I have had and we never even made it into the relationship. So what gives, what do I do to protect myself but not lose you, is it even possible? Better yet, is it really worth it?
I dont know. But I will try. I dont want to be the other girl, it was blurry as to whether that happened last year, and I dont want to play that game again. If anything I want you to be just mine, one on one, no extra people. But it seems you have moved on and whether you know it or not, and whether I like it or not, it feels as if I am the backup girl.
My pride and joy in this whole situation is that I have not cried over you. Frustrated? Yes. Angered? yes. Hurt? sure. But tearful? Not once. And whether or not I like the fact that the saying "He who makes you cry isnt worth the tears and he who doesnt is" or some variation of that, is stuck in my head, it definitely influences me. You havent ever made me cry, and for some reason or another that speaks volumes in and of itself. And I cannot shake it.
The way that you have an uncanny ability to almost literally bring me to my knees in surprise is a pain in the butt. And the fact that you remember and freaking bring up some of our "moments" just flabbergasts me. I mean seriously, last night you watched Twilight and New Moon and brought up the night that you first saw Twilight. A night that I will never forget. And then I asked if you ever read the books. And apparently you have, so I commended your girlfriend for getting you to read the books, but you said it wasnt her who got you to read the books. No, apparently when I told you you should read the books you did. I mean SERIOUSLY? You like UK basketball? WHAT THE HELL?!
I feel that I will never be able to forget you, not that I would want to. However, this just friends thing we have scares the shit out of me. Because for me, those memories that I have, they cloud my vision. We had some good things. And you still talk about hanging out, it just scares me. YOU scare me.
Here's an analogy for how I feel. I feel like I am a fish that bit down on a baited hook. You were the fisherman, and reeled me in. You took the hook out and treated me special for a while. Then you put me in a cooler and its yet to be decided whether or not you are going to let me go free at the end of the day.
Heres to hoping that the worst fate that this fish comes to is just being put in an aquarium and not being fried for dinner, because I am sure if you were to take me home for dinner things would definitely end in tears.
I said it once last year that you had me hook line and sinker and that you needed to either fish or cut bait. So I think you have fished and yet I still dont have much control over what happens.
Here's to being able to live a life as a fairly happy fish and not being fried for lent! :)
Thursday, March 04, 2010
Who am I kidding, Really?
Do you remember James, the guy I had such convoluted emotions about over the summer?
Yea well apparently we are still friends, it took a while but I became ok with it. In fact I have to be careful about what I say about him around my friends because of their intense loyalty to me and Katrina. Needless to say, they dont trust him anymore. And sure I understand why, I have even struggled over the though of would I be able to ride in a car that he was driving anytime soon? (I still havent come up with a good answer, although I lean towards NO) Regardless, we usually have a fun banter about things going on in our lives and it hit me today, thanks to realizing that his girlfriend was at his apartment, that hes moving on, forward, and though it doesnt really feel like it, I think I might be stuck, in some quicksand.
I guess that before tonight the girlfriend always seemed like a phase of his, something that he would get over because I mean after all we had such a good thing going, when it was going, that is. And we said that we didnt think that it was the last time we would talk, hang out, whatever. But maybe this girlfriend is you know, REAL. Maybe there's something really there. And sure I know that I deserve better, but things felt so real with him, like they werent quite finished just yet. He was the first guy to really I dont know, make me feel special? Make me feel like the world wasnt really passing me by?
And if I am being brutally honest with myself- which tonight I am, it hurts. Its not really a full out break my heart hurt. But theres definitely a little ache there. Its time that I hang up my hat and really admit to myself that we are just friends. But the sad but true thing is, I dont know that I really know how to be friends with him (or any guy for that matter).
So heres to feeling an ache, realizing that life isnt perfect, but it definitely is wonderful IF you can take a step back and look at it, and realizing that there will be something out there for you, you just have to be patient. I am trying my patience once again! :)
Oh, and by the way, I am the new President for the Student Alumni Association here at school, I was voted in today. This is thrilling yet daunting.
Yea well apparently we are still friends, it took a while but I became ok with it. In fact I have to be careful about what I say about him around my friends because of their intense loyalty to me and Katrina. Needless to say, they dont trust him anymore. And sure I understand why, I have even struggled over the though of would I be able to ride in a car that he was driving anytime soon? (I still havent come up with a good answer, although I lean towards NO) Regardless, we usually have a fun banter about things going on in our lives and it hit me today, thanks to realizing that his girlfriend was at his apartment, that hes moving on, forward, and though it doesnt really feel like it, I think I might be stuck, in some quicksand.
I guess that before tonight the girlfriend always seemed like a phase of his, something that he would get over because I mean after all we had such a good thing going, when it was going, that is. And we said that we didnt think that it was the last time we would talk, hang out, whatever. But maybe this girlfriend is you know, REAL. Maybe there's something really there. And sure I know that I deserve better, but things felt so real with him, like they werent quite finished just yet. He was the first guy to really I dont know, make me feel special? Make me feel like the world wasnt really passing me by?
And if I am being brutally honest with myself- which tonight I am, it hurts. Its not really a full out break my heart hurt. But theres definitely a little ache there. Its time that I hang up my hat and really admit to myself that we are just friends. But the sad but true thing is, I dont know that I really know how to be friends with him (or any guy for that matter).
So heres to feeling an ache, realizing that life isnt perfect, but it definitely is wonderful IF you can take a step back and look at it, and realizing that there will be something out there for you, you just have to be patient. I am trying my patience once again! :)
Oh, and by the way, I am the new President for the Student Alumni Association here at school, I was voted in today. This is thrilling yet daunting.
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