Happy Birthday, its a big one!

So, now its a day after my birthday. And I feel almost as if I missed it! Oh well.
Our favorite person called me yesterday, talked to me for 22 minutes and didnt even wish me happy birthday! But liked talking to me when he passed his crash site (where he totaled his Jeep last August) because I calm him down. Seriously?! He calls me, not his girlfriend? I don't get it, I just don't. Can ANYONE explain this to me??
People tell me that he's got me on the back burner, there just in case. And that he contacts me because he knows that I wont ignore him. But what I see is a strong woman that makes him come to me. Sure, I'll initiate conversation some, but its mostly him. At least 7 times out of 10 he talks to me first, whether its on facebook, or calling me. Granted if we have a text conversation, I generally text him first. But still, 7 times out of 10. There's gotta be some sort of subconscious appeal there, right? I dont know, I am totally confused.
Don't get me wrong, I don't MIND talking to him often. And it kinda makes me secretly smile that HE generally makes initial contact. But overall, big picture, I am kind of confused.
So, who's got answers for me?!


As for my birthday... how do I feel about being 21?
Well...
My grandma was married at 19.
One of my brothers got married at 21, his wife was 20 at the time. They had their first kid within a year.
My oldest brother was born 11 days before my dad turned 22.
My other sister-in-law had just turned 22 when she married my brother. They too had their first kid within a year.

In short... I feel a little behind the times.
Sure, my mom was 27 when she married my dad, and then waited another 3 years before I was born.
But I've always said I wanted to get married at 23 and have kids at 25, and well that really, REALLY doesnt look too promising. Which is kind of saddening.
On the other hand, I am USUALLY happy with my life. I mean I want to finish school and grad school and have a career and such, but I still WANT a man in my life, ya know?! lol.
Ok, birthday rant over... OH and I didnt cry on my birthday this year! :)